Verbal Abuse

So I’ve been debating on whether I’d like to even write this blog. The more I thought about it I decided to go for it.  The one reason I was unsure about talking about this topic is because I never told anyone except my husband about it. So here goes.

                                   On February 2014 I left my first husband due to basically being unhappy ( wont go into detail). I wanted to stay in Greenwood ( where I was living at the time) to see if I could continue my life there. I told one of my customers on what was going on and he opened his place up if I would like to stay there. So I took him up on the offer ( bad idea). All my stuff was packed up and ready to be moved. I was unsure what I was getting myself into. All I could think about was staying in Greenwood. Well over the next month of staying with a customer of mine (since I worked at Speedway) I noticed a couple of things:

  • He wasn’t looking for a job so he would use me for money
  •  If I wanted to go to the library to fill out apps he would tell me I could only stay for an hour.
  • Kept going through my phone and reading all my messages
  • Kept telling me I’d get no where in life
  • That I was a failure
  • Telling me I don’t need to be sleeping ( when I worked third shift)
  • ( Hate to even say this one) even used me for sex 😦

Over the last couple of weeks the customer finally got a job. During that time I went back home for my cousin’s wedding. Right then I knew I was meant to be back with my family and I was needing to leave Greenwood for good.  When heading back to Greenwood I went about my daily routine with work and of course being told what to do.  I was to the point of being scared to even sleep. So one day while he was at work I decided to get out and go be with friends and just have fun for once. Well all hell is about to break loose.

Basically I told him I was thinking about going home for good because that is where I belong. When I told him I wanted to move back home he started to threaten me. I made some phone calls and told them what was going on and that I needed help getting my items from the apartment.  My brother and sister-in-law helped me get my items. WE got everything out just in time and got back to his place to hide my car. That whole night he was blowing up my phone with texts and calls to the point of harassment. I even told him that if he is going to continue this I’m calling the cops. That didn’t even scare him. The next day I contacted my boss and told her I wasn’t coming in. Well unfortunately I still had to because of no replacement.  I also called Speedway Corp and asked for a transfer. Until then I needed to go about my life. I called my friend who was a boss and he came and got me to take me to work. I was seriously petrified to even go in even with my friends there with me. We even got a game plan set in case the customer was to come in.  My friend guarded the doors and kept a look out. That night when I went back to my brothers he told me about getting a call back from Speedway corp. Come to find out my request was approved. Needless to say it took all but 24 hours for it all to go through. That next day I headed out to go back home and never looked back.

A lot of you are probably wondering Why I never said anything to anyone about him?

Well I was scared for my life and wasn’t sure what he was capable of doing. I was scared to even tell my family. I was to the point of being scared to sleep.  Yes I put myself in a bad situation and should have just moved back home when I left my first husband.  At times I wish I could go back and redo everything I did wrong, but then again if I did that I wouldn’t be where I’m at in life now. My life is so much better and the rest is yet to come.

My advice to you is: DON’T BE SCARED TO TALK TO SOMEONE AND GET HELP. VERBAL ABUSE IF IT GETS TO SERIOUS JUST LEADS TO PHYSICAL ABUSE. I’M ADDING A LINK THAT PROVIDES A NUMBER TO CALL IN CASE YOU ARE IN ONE OF THOSE SITUATIONS.

http://www.thehotline.org/

Thank you for reading. Please don’t be afraid to comment.

 

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